Despite what many might think, studies conducted from 2016 to the present suggest that both marriage rates and divorce rates are decreasing. Interestingly, the trends are showing that millennials are choosing to wait longer to get married and staying married longer. However, despite that 50% of all marriages in the U.S. still end in divorce or separation. In fact, a new divorce is filed every 13 seconds.
For both men and women, the average first marriage that ends in divorce lasts about 8 years. The average age for couples to go through their first divorce is 30 years old. In fact, 60% of all divorces involve individuals ages 25-39. And did you know that on average, wives file for divorce 66% of the time?
It is interesting to note that about 1% of married same-sex couples get divorced each year, while 2% of married straight couples divorce. And according to the one study, lesbian couples are nearly twice as likely to end a marriage or civil union as gay male couples.
The month of January, after the holidays, is considered by some “divorce month.” And now in 2021, after living through the Covid-19 pandemic, there is a bit of pent-up demand that many family law attorneys are experiencing this winter.
Why People are Divorcing in the U.S.
One national study reported that lack of commitment is the most common reason given by divorcing couples. Here are some additional underlying reasons and percentages that couples claim:
- Lack of commitment 73%
- Argue too much 56%
- Infidelity 55%
- Unrealistic expectations 46%
- Lack of equality in the relationship 45%
- Lack of preparation for marriage 41%
- Domestic Violence or Abuse 25%
In conclusion, if you or someone you know is considering divorce a bit of planning prior to filing your papers might be in order. Mediation is becoming more popular among couples as the cost is significantly less than a litigated divorce. But when you and your spouse disagree on too many issues you will need an attorney with a client centric focus. Most importantly do your homework and find an attorney with whom you feel comfortable.