What will your life be like post divorce? Being a married woman – a wife – for several decades changes the way you view yourself and what you expect your future to look like. Hearing that your spouse wants a divorce may send you into an emotional tailspin. It’s common to go through many feelings at once: sadness, anger, guilt, depression, and wondering what to look forward to in your uncertain future.
Although it may be hard to imagine, many women in this position go on to experience positive outcomes, growing to feel better about themselves, looking forward to a bright future. Having been part of a couple for so long and perhaps leaving the workforce to raise children, women go through a rebirth of sorts, rediscovering their passion and independence in a way they never would have if they had stayed married.
Divorce success stories don’t happen on day one. It takes time to grieve a failed marriage and come to a place of acceptance before you can conceive of happy endings. Once you are ready for the next stage, you have the opportunity to start over, focusing on yourself for a change and deciding what you would like to do with your life.
What We Hear From Clients
One common regret among women is it can be tough to nurture friendships during the hectic years of career and child-rearing. With those demanding pursuits behind, you can make an effort toward restoring relationships that have been neglected. Other ideas to consider include joining new groups or taking up hobbies for recently divorced singles.
Joining a club or a class is a great way to make new friends and rediscover a hobby you once had a passion for or have always wanted to try. Working out at a gym or in a class is another way to start meeting new people, and exercise is good for both your physical and mental health.
Are you a foodie? We have heard success stories from women who have joined cooking classes or simply committed to trying new foods. If this idea appeals to you, start an “adventurous eaters club” with friends, plan dinners at ethnic restaurants and sample foods from different countries.
Continuing Your Journey
The point is to look at post divorce life as an opportunity to try new things and make positive changes. Whether you are committed to staying single or would someday like to marry again, now is the time to reinvent yourself. We’ve collected too many divorce success stories to mention but suffice it to say life goes on and is often better than you expect.
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