While every marriage is unique research has shown a few specific factors that contribute to marriage stability and a strong relationship between spouses. These include keeping lines of communication open, sharing a deep commitment to one another, and treating each other with kindness, acceptance, and love.
Unfortunately, midlife breakups are much more common than they were a generation ago. Since the 1990s, the national trend of divorce among adults in their 50s and older has roughly doubled. Traditionally, older couples tended to remain married whether or not they felt satisfied or fulfilled. But this trend seems to be changing dramatically.
While there are a variety of marriage problems that play a part, what are some common reasons why long-term marriages end?
The Unfortunate Truth
Common reasons long-term marriages end include:
- Cheating
- Money issues
- Lack of communication
- Unresolved issues from the past
- Waiting until the kids moved out
- Changes in lifestyles
- Unfulfilled expectations
When is Divorce the Right Option?
Sadly, even seasoned marriages can end in divorce. Although the rate of divorce is lower among adults over 50 in long-term marriages a significant share of “gray divorces” do happen among couples married for 30 or more years. In fact, approximately 34% of these couples had been in their marriage for at least 30 years and 12% have been married for 40 years or more.
Due to a longer life expectancy and the fact that the stigma of getting divorced no longer exists in the way it did for previous generations, many individuals who are over the age 50, 60, and 70 are unhappy in their marriages and are looking for new opportunities to pursue their own interests and independence for the years remaining.
Ending a long-term marriage or getting a divorce after 10 years of marriage is a difficult process, no matter what the circumstances surrounding the breakup are. Beginning the process can be stressful and overwhelming.
At Buncher Family Law, we will provide the guidance and support you need to create an easier transition to your new life.